Looking for True Love in the House of Pleasure


Oracle of the Radiant Sun
Oracle of the Radiant Sun

Venus has long held the title as Goddess of Love, but it’s the 5th house of a natal chart that is her pleasure palace and where our love affairs reside. Love affairs are one of the main topics astrologers, card readers, palmists, and BFFs are asked about. “What’s happening in my love life? Will I meet someone? Does she love me? Will he call?”

The sign on the cusp of the 5th and any planets placed there will shed some light on how you approach romantic love, and transits may show you what’s coming up. The whole chart has to be considered, of course, but you can gain a little info from examining the 5th. Rex E. Bills assigns rulership of love affairs to Leo, the 5th house, and Venus. This card from “Oracle of the Radiant Sun” by Caroline Smith and John Alstrop is the perfect rendition of his assignments.

There’s one little hitch, though ~ the 5th isn’t the house of long-term partnerships; that is to say ~ marriage. The 5th is the house of pleasure. Romance fits there. Love affairs fit there. Even sex for fun fits there. Ah, but love…does true love really fit here? It’s possible, but it probably comes with a hefty price.

Now I would think ~ I can’t prove it ~ but I would think that the “Affairs to Remember” are going to come with the Big Boy transits ~ Jupiter, Saturn, Uranus, and Neptune. And I would imagine that the love affairs they typify are very much in keeping with the character of the planets. For example, Uranian affairs aren’t expected to last ~ they pop up, wreak havoc, and blow away with as much surprise as they arrived. Jupiter may bring you a brilliant tryst with a foreigner or find you in an affair away from home. Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert is a good example of a Jupiterian love. Saturnian affairs may find you involved with someone much older than yourself or with someone who makes you face some of the more difficult aspects of your character. Neptune…well, be careful here that you don’t idealize your new love. You may kiss a lot of toads that will never turn into princes. Then again, that may all be a bunch of hooey and you start a life-long love as a result of a 5th house transit.

5th house transits don’t always pertain to love. This is the house of pleasure, and the pleasure of a love affair can end abruptly. Romantic love usually lasts a couple of years before settling into something deeper. When Venus’ bewitching magic wears off, and you catch a glimpse of what your lover really looks like, you’ll make a choice to move this relationship to the 7th…or not. You’ll be travelling unknown territory when you move out of Leo’s house of ego and into Libra’s house of union. If you decide to do this, please take one thing with you when you go ~ a spark from that romantic flame that set your heart on fire. Never let that die.

Pleasure isn’t just about romance, of course. It can come from your creative pursuits, the arts, children, participation in athletics, and different kinds of gaming. Any of these can be activated by a focused transit of the 5th house.

When it comes to love, nothing is ever written in stone and there are as many viewpoints about it as there are lovers. Here are some quotes that might give you a sampling of what 5th house transits might be like when it comes to l’amour.

Sun ~
An affair wants to spill, to share its glory with the world. No act is so private it does not seek applause. ~ John Updike

Moon ~
So much of what we know of love, we learn at home. ~ Unknown

Mercury ~
The perfect love affair is one which is conducted entirely by post. ~ George Bernard Shaw

Venus ~
Love built on beauty, soon as beauty, dies. ~ John Donne

Jupiter ~
We cannot really love anybody with whom we never laugh. ~ Agnes Repplier

Saturn ~
If while you are young you don’t feel love, if you don’t look with love at people, at animals, at flowers, when you grow up you find that your life is empty; you will be very lonely, and the dark shadows of fear will follow you always.  ~ Yogananda

Uranus ~
Love withers with predictability; its very essence is surprise and amazement. To make love a prisoner of the mundane is to take its passion and lose it forever. ~ Leo F. Buscaglia

Neptune ~
Love is like water. We can fall in it. We can drown in it. And sometimes it’s better with a little scotch. ~ Bob Tzu

Pluto ~
When he is late for dinner and I know he must be either having an affair or lying dead in the street, I always hope he’s dead. ~ Judith Viorst

And a joke from Osho:
Nancy was having coffee with Helen.
Nancy asked, “How do you know your husband loves you?”
“He takes out the garbage every morning.”
“That’s not love. That’s good housekeeping.”
“My husband gives me all the spending money I need.”
“That’s not love. That’s generosity.”
“My husband never looks at other women.”
“That’s not love. That’s poor vision.”
“John always opens the door for me.”
“That’s not love. That’s good manners.”
“John kisses me even when I’ve eaten garlic and I have curlers in my hair.”
“Now, that’s love.”

Here’s an old country song by Johnny Lee, Looking for Love, that throws a spotlight on looking for love in the house of pleasure. Note all the 5th house keywords in the song: good time lovers, playing a fool’s game hoping to win, losing again, a friend and a lover, another heart looking for love.

If you haven’t added Rex E. Bills’ The Rulership Book  or J. Lee Lehman’s The Book of Rulerships: Keywords from Classical Astrology to your shelf, you’re missing out on two great learning tools. You can learn so much about astrology just by skimming either of these.

7 thoughts on “Looking for True Love in the House of Pleasure

  1. The comment about pluto in the 5th house, and the lover dead somewhere is a bit sick? i have natal pluto in virgo in the fifth tho leo on the fifth house cusp and two lovers of mine have died? When this happens in real life it is overwhelmingly sad?

    1. It’s easy to see how that quote would hurt you, Dottee, and I am truly sorry that I brought that sadness to you. It was not my intention to include a quote that would belittle the death of a lover, but to show the extreme possessiveness that exists in some relationships. I do appreciate you pointing this out to me so that I might be more sensitive in the future.

  2. My 5th House cusp is in Virgo, and I have Pluto at 1+ Scorpio in there. Transiting Ceres just went into my 5th House, and pretty soon transiting Saturn will follow. Does this mean that my hymen is going to grow back?

  3. While that’s possible, Lucy, spontaneous hymen regeneration is generally an 8th house issue involving a Uranus transit to Vesta conjoined Mars at the critical degree, and usually occurs only with a New Moon in Virgo IF, and it’s important to stress this, your prenatal eclipse was in Scorpio. What are the odds? But keep us posted!

  4. Today is my bday, will i live my entire live having just affairs and never meeting a true love??

    1. Happy Birthday, Jade!

      Being a Leo doesn’t mean you’re destined to only having affairs. Plenty of Leo’s have had long, devoted marriages and celebrated their golden (50th) anniversary and then some.

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